Feb. 9, 2026
What’s Really Keeping You Stuck?
Sometimes feeling stuck isn’t about a lack of motivation, discipline, or effort.
Sometimes it’s something quieter… closer… harder to name.
In this episode, we gently explore what often keeps us stuck long after the season has changed — not circumstances, but the thoughts we’ve been rehearsing, believing, and carrying with us.
Anxiety that whispers worst-case scenarios.
Comparison that quietly steals joy.
Inner narratives that sound convincing but slowly erode peace.
Drawing from Scripture and a familiar story of restoration, this episode invites you to pause and look beneath the surface. Because before our direction changes, our thinking usually does.
You’ll be invited to consider:
- How thought patterns can quietly keep us stuck
- Why awareness is often the first step toward freedom
- What Scripture teaches about renewing the mind
- How small mental shifts can begin real transformation
There’s no pressure here to fix everything or figure it all out.
Just an invitation to notice what’s been shaping your inner world — and to remember that you don’t have to believe every thought you think.
My Question for You:
What’s really keeping you stuck?
🎧 If this episode resonated with you, I invite you to check out the blog on my website at myquestionforyou.com, where I expand on these questions a little more each week.
And if you’d like a quiet encouragement delivered to your inbox, you can sign up for my weekly email, This Week’s Question: A Quiet Invitation — a simple pause to carry with you through the week.
✨ Encouragement for your spirit. Wisdom for your walk.
WEBVTT
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Foreign.
00:00:19.199 --> 00:00:29.059
Today I want to talk to a very specific person because this episode is for the one who says they want change but hasn't really moved in a while.
00:00:29.539 --> 00:00:40.820
The one who thinks about life a lot, prays about things often, but still finds that they're ending most of their days feeling restless and maybe even a little unsatisfied with life.
00:00:41.460 --> 00:00:52.020
If you listened to last week's episode and thought, hey, that's me, I live in my head more than in my actual life, then today is the next step for you.
00:00:52.840 --> 00:00:58.039
Because awareness is important, but awareness alone doesn't change a thing.
00:00:58.920 --> 00:01:08.760
This is part of our Unstuck series and today we're going to talk about the difference between wishing for something new and actually walking toward it.
00:01:09.480 --> 00:01:10.760
Not in a heavy way.
00:01:10.840 --> 00:01:14.280
So don't worry, this isn't in any shame filled way at all.
00:01:14.680 --> 00:01:21.230
Just honestly hi, I'm Melissa and this is my question for you.
00:01:21.790 --> 00:01:28.189
This is a space where we slow down, we take a breath, and remember what's true as we keep walking forward.
00:01:28.829 --> 00:01:38.510
And today's question is one that I hope helps you find the strength and encouragement to spend more time living your life than just thinking about it.
00:01:39.230 --> 00:01:45.150
So today my question for you is what's really keeping you stuck?
00:01:55.280 --> 00:01:59.120
You know, for a lot of people, being stuck doesn't feel dramatic.
00:01:59.439 --> 00:02:04.400
It doesn't come from a place of chaos or even from a crisis that may have happened in your life.
00:02:04.879 --> 00:02:10.879
It just shows up in much quieter ways and it actually starts to feel like your norm in life.
00:02:11.819 --> 00:02:13.340
Life just starts to feel dull.
00:02:13.659 --> 00:02:19.740
Your days feel a little repetitive, and there's a low level restlessness that you can't quite seem to shake.
00:02:20.379 --> 00:02:27.419
You don't love how your life feels, but you also haven't done anything to change it or to try to break things up.
00:02:28.379 --> 00:02:29.819
Thoughts come and go.
00:02:30.379 --> 00:02:32.620
You imagine starting something new.
00:02:32.939 --> 00:02:36.300
You might consider changing something that's been bothering you for a while.
00:02:36.870 --> 00:02:41.270
And sometimes you even picture yourself getting up and doing something different.
00:02:42.069 --> 00:02:45.830
But when the moment passes, nothing really changes.
00:02:46.629 --> 00:02:47.830
Time moves on.
00:02:48.310 --> 00:02:57.110
You stay in your comfy couch, you scroll longer than you meant to, your mind stays busy, but your life stays the same.
00:02:57.590 --> 00:03:01.949
And at some point that pattern starts to feel normal.
00:03:01.949 --> 00:03:03.990
It starts to just become who you are.
00:03:05.030 --> 00:03:11.229
Over time, it can even start to feel spiritual, like you're being patient or waiting for God.
00:03:11.229 --> 00:03:22.710
And we talk about that often, confusing waiting for God with just being stuck or really not being brave enough or strong enough to take that next step.
00:03:23.830 --> 00:03:25.909
But Scripture draws a line there.
00:03:26.949 --> 00:03:30.789
You know, the Bible never criticized people for Waiting on God.
00:03:31.439 --> 00:03:32.719
Waiting has its place.
00:03:33.439 --> 00:03:37.120
What scripture does address is double minded living.
00:03:37.919 --> 00:03:46.479
In James, chapter one, verse eight, it says such a person is double minded and unstable in all they do.
00:03:48.159 --> 00:03:51.840
That verse isn't talking about someone who doesn't love God.
00:03:52.319 --> 00:03:57.199
It's describing someone who wants two things at the same time.
00:03:58.360 --> 00:04:01.560
They want change, but they also want comfort.
00:04:02.360 --> 00:04:05.879
They want movement, but they don't want disruption.
00:04:06.520 --> 00:04:12.120
And they want God to do something, but they just aren't willing to get up and walk.
00:04:13.240 --> 00:04:16.279
That inner tug of war creates instability.
00:04:17.319 --> 00:04:24.639
Not because God is holding back on fulfilling his promises to you, but because a divided mind you can't move forward.
00:04:25.600 --> 00:04:29.279
Eventually, staying still starts to feel miserable.
00:04:29.759 --> 00:04:35.519
You start to hate being in that place where you are, and you find yourself longing for change.
00:04:36.800 --> 00:04:40.160
This is where overthinking quietly keeps people stuck.
00:04:40.480 --> 00:04:49.920
When you are going through the motions and seeing things in your life, but just not taking action, thinking can feel productive.
00:04:50.490 --> 00:04:51.689
It can feel responsible.
00:04:51.930 --> 00:04:56.329
It feels like moving and something is happening in your life.
00:04:56.649 --> 00:04:58.970
But thinking is not the same as living.
00:04:59.610 --> 00:05:04.250
You can analyze your life endlessly and still never change.
00:05:05.209 --> 00:05:11.050
At some point, you have to stop narrating what you might do and actually just do something.
00:05:12.170 --> 00:05:16.009
Scripture doesn't highlight people who thought deeply about obedience.
00:05:16.529 --> 00:05:19.730
It highlights people who stood up and followed.
00:05:20.610 --> 00:05:24.129
Jesus never said, think about following me.
00:05:24.689 --> 00:05:26.850
He just said follow me.
00:05:27.649 --> 00:05:28.850
That's movement.
00:05:28.850 --> 00:05:29.410
Language.
00:05:29.569 --> 00:05:31.089
That's the type of movement.
00:05:31.250 --> 00:05:34.689
That's the type of language that incites movement and gets you going.
00:05:35.810 --> 00:05:42.930
Colossians, chapter three, verse two says, set your minds on things above and not on earthly things.
00:05:44.269 --> 00:05:45.149
That word set.
00:05:46.029 --> 00:05:47.310
That word matters.
00:05:47.550 --> 00:05:50.430
It implies intention, direction, decision.
00:05:51.149 --> 00:05:54.829
A mind that's set doesn't drift endlessly.
00:05:55.389 --> 00:05:57.069
A divided mind does.
00:05:57.389 --> 00:06:01.470
And when your mind keeps drifting, your life begins to stall.
00:06:02.269 --> 00:06:04.990
Getting unstuck often starts right there.
00:06:05.629 --> 00:06:09.790
By deciding where your attention is going to live.
00:06:11.490 --> 00:06:15.730
Here's an uncomfortable truth most of us have experienced.
00:06:16.610 --> 00:06:21.410
Faith stays in your head eventually turns into frustration.
00:06:22.050 --> 00:06:30.129
When you find yourself going over and over and over the same thoughts and actually not moving, you start to feel a little frustrated.
00:06:30.129 --> 00:06:38.290
Once you have that awareness that things aren't moving, frustration sets in and you start to feel a little uneasy in your spirit.
00:06:38.939 --> 00:06:46.060
Because you know too much to stay comfortable, but you do too little to change.
00:06:47.180 --> 00:06:50.060
That tension wears on you over time.
00:06:50.779 --> 00:06:54.459
That's why Jesus says faith without works is dead.
00:06:55.019 --> 00:07:01.579
Not because action earns God's approval, but because action is how faith stays alive.
00:07:02.540 --> 00:07:05.339
Movement keeps faith from going stale.
00:07:07.180 --> 00:07:12.139
Getting unstuck doesn't usually require a massive life overhaul.
00:07:12.139 --> 00:07:15.019
It doesn't look like a complete 180 in your life.
00:07:15.500 --> 00:07:18.699
It usually starts with just getting up.
00:07:19.500 --> 00:07:20.779
Sometimes quite literally.
00:07:21.339 --> 00:07:25.019
It might look like turning off the TV and deciding to go for a walk.
00:07:25.660 --> 00:07:30.699
It could mean putting down your phone and doing the thing you've been talking about for weeks.
00:07:32.170 --> 00:07:38.889
Might be reaching out instead of withdrawing, or starting something before you actually feel the motivation to do it.
00:07:39.050 --> 00:07:45.370
Just making a conscious decision in your mind that it's time to act, that it's time to move forward.
00:07:46.170 --> 00:07:49.529
Because small movement changes something inside of you.
00:07:50.089 --> 00:07:56.970
God meets people who move not because movement impresses him, but because movement creates space.
00:07:58.180 --> 00:08:00.180
You don't need to feel ready.
00:08:00.259 --> 00:08:05.860
In fact, you won't always feel ready, but you need to be willing to take that step.
00:08:07.379 --> 00:08:11.620
Throughout scripture, God meets people while they're walking.
00:08:12.259 --> 00:08:13.540
Abraham walked.
00:08:14.420 --> 00:08:15.459
Israel walked.
00:08:15.459 --> 00:08:16.819
The disciples walked.
00:08:17.540 --> 00:08:20.060
Following God has always been active.
00:08:20.060 --> 00:08:24.100
It's always been about motion, and we talked about this last week.
00:08:24.639 --> 00:08:26.560
Clarity comes along the way.
00:08:27.759 --> 00:08:42.480
That's how unstuck works in real life, too, by making the decision to just move and not needing all the answers, but trusting that once you step out, God will meet you where you are and everything will fall into place.
00:08:51.450 --> 00:08:54.330
So again, here's my question for you today.
00:08:55.210 --> 00:08:57.450
What's really keeping you stuck?
00:08:58.250 --> 00:09:02.809
Are you wishing for change or are you willing to walk toward it?
00:09:03.370 --> 00:09:09.450
Because wishing keeps you comfortable, Walking is what actually changes your life.
00:09:10.409 --> 00:09:18.419
If you're bored, restless, or just dissatisfied right now, I want you to pause and ask yourself one simple question.
00:09:19.700 --> 00:09:24.899
What's one thing I could do today instead of just thinking about it?
00:09:25.379 --> 00:09:28.419
Not next week, not someday, but today?
00:09:29.620 --> 00:09:33.779
Get out of your head and get into your life.
00:09:34.179 --> 00:09:37.700
God is already there and he's ready to meet you in motion.
00:09:38.580 --> 00:09:49.629
So next time I want you to please keep asking, keep listening, and don't stay seated when God is inviting you to get unstuck.
00:09:59.710 --> 00:10:00.669
Before you go.
00:10:00.990 --> 00:10:05.230
If today's question stayed with you, I'd love to keep the conversation going.
00:10:05.789 --> 00:10:20.370
Each week I send a short email called this week's question a Quiet Invitation, and it's a simple reflection to help you stay grounded, to pay attention, to dive deeper into God's word, and to walk with God throughout your week.
00:10:20.690 --> 00:10:28.210
You can sign up at myquestion for you.com bringing you encouragement for your spirit and wisdom for your walk.
00:10:41.070 --> 00:10:41.309
It.
00:00:00.239 --> 00:00:00.560
Foreign.
00:00:19.199 --> 00:00:29.059
Today I want to talk to a very specific person because this episode is for the one who says they want change but hasn't really moved in a while.
00:00:29.539 --> 00:00:40.820
The one who thinks about life a lot, prays about things often, but still finds that they're ending most of their days feeling restless and maybe even a little unsatisfied with life.
00:00:41.460 --> 00:00:52.020
If you listened to last week's episode and thought, hey, that's me, I live in my head more than in my actual life, then today is the next step for you.
00:00:52.840 --> 00:00:58.039
Because awareness is important, but awareness alone doesn't change a thing.
00:00:58.920 --> 00:01:08.760
This is part of our Unstuck series and today we're going to talk about the difference between wishing for something new and actually walking toward it.
00:01:09.480 --> 00:01:10.760
Not in a heavy way.
00:01:10.840 --> 00:01:14.280
So don't worry, this isn't in any shame filled way at all.
00:01:14.680 --> 00:01:21.230
Just honestly hi, I'm Melissa and this is my question for you.
00:01:21.790 --> 00:01:28.189
This is a space where we slow down, we take a breath, and remember what's true as we keep walking forward.
00:01:28.829 --> 00:01:38.510
And today's question is one that I hope helps you find the strength and encouragement to spend more time living your life than just thinking about it.
00:01:39.230 --> 00:01:45.150
So today my question for you is what's really keeping you stuck?
00:01:55.280 --> 00:01:59.120
You know, for a lot of people, being stuck doesn't feel dramatic.
00:01:59.439 --> 00:02:04.400
It doesn't come from a place of chaos or even from a crisis that may have happened in your life.
00:02:04.879 --> 00:02:10.879
It just shows up in much quieter ways and it actually starts to feel like your norm in life.
00:02:11.819 --> 00:02:13.340
Life just starts to feel dull.
00:02:13.659 --> 00:02:19.740
Your days feel a little repetitive, and there's a low level restlessness that you can't quite seem to shake.
00:02:20.379 --> 00:02:27.419
You don't love how your life feels, but you also haven't done anything to change it or to try to break things up.
00:02:28.379 --> 00:02:29.819
Thoughts come and go.
00:02:30.379 --> 00:02:32.620
You imagine starting something new.
00:02:32.939 --> 00:02:36.300
You might consider changing something that's been bothering you for a while.
00:02:36.870 --> 00:02:41.270
And sometimes you even picture yourself getting up and doing something different.
00:02:42.069 --> 00:02:45.830
But when the moment passes, nothing really changes.
00:02:46.629 --> 00:02:47.830
Time moves on.
00:02:48.310 --> 00:02:57.110
You stay in your comfy couch, you scroll longer than you meant to, your mind stays busy, but your life stays the same.
00:02:57.590 --> 00:03:01.949
And at some point that pattern starts to feel normal.
00:03:01.949 --> 00:03:03.990
It starts to just become who you are.
00:03:05.030 --> 00:03:11.229
Over time, it can even start to feel spiritual, like you're being patient or waiting for God.
00:03:11.229 --> 00:03:22.710
And we talk about that often, confusing waiting for God with just being stuck or really not being brave enough or strong enough to take that next step.
00:03:23.830 --> 00:03:25.909
But Scripture draws a line there.
00:03:26.949 --> 00:03:30.789
You know, the Bible never criticized people for Waiting on God.
00:03:31.439 --> 00:03:32.719
Waiting has its place.
00:03:33.439 --> 00:03:37.120
What scripture does address is double minded living.
00:03:37.919 --> 00:03:46.479
In James, chapter one, verse eight, it says such a person is double minded and unstable in all they do.
00:03:48.159 --> 00:03:51.840
That verse isn't talking about someone who doesn't love God.
00:03:52.319 --> 00:03:57.199
It's describing someone who wants two things at the same time.
00:03:58.360 --> 00:04:01.560
They want change, but they also want comfort.
00:04:02.360 --> 00:04:05.879
They want movement, but they don't want disruption.
00:04:06.520 --> 00:04:12.120
And they want God to do something, but they just aren't willing to get up and walk.
00:04:13.240 --> 00:04:16.279
That inner tug of war creates instability.
00:04:17.319 --> 00:04:24.639
Not because God is holding back on fulfilling his promises to you, but because a divided mind you can't move forward.
00:04:25.600 --> 00:04:29.279
Eventually, staying still starts to feel miserable.
00:04:29.759 --> 00:04:35.519
You start to hate being in that place where you are, and you find yourself longing for change.
00:04:36.800 --> 00:04:40.160
This is where overthinking quietly keeps people stuck.
00:04:40.480 --> 00:04:49.920
When you are going through the motions and seeing things in your life, but just not taking action, thinking can feel productive.
00:04:50.490 --> 00:04:51.689
It can feel responsible.
00:04:51.930 --> 00:04:56.329
It feels like moving and something is happening in your life.
00:04:56.649 --> 00:04:58.970
But thinking is not the same as living.
00:04:59.610 --> 00:05:04.250
You can analyze your life endlessly and still never change.
00:05:05.209 --> 00:05:11.050
At some point, you have to stop narrating what you might do and actually just do something.
00:05:12.170 --> 00:05:16.009
Scripture doesn't highlight people who thought deeply about obedience.
00:05:16.529 --> 00:05:19.730
It highlights people who stood up and followed.
00:05:20.610 --> 00:05:24.129
Jesus never said, think about following me.
00:05:24.689 --> 00:05:26.850
He just said follow me.
00:05:27.649 --> 00:05:28.850
That's movement.
00:05:28.850 --> 00:05:29.410
Language.
00:05:29.569 --> 00:05:31.089
That's the type of movement.
00:05:31.250 --> 00:05:34.689
That's the type of language that incites movement and gets you going.
00:05:35.810 --> 00:05:42.930
Colossians, chapter three, verse two says, set your minds on things above and not on earthly things.
00:05:44.269 --> 00:05:45.149
That word set.
00:05:46.029 --> 00:05:47.310
That word matters.
00:05:47.550 --> 00:05:50.430
It implies intention, direction, decision.
00:05:51.149 --> 00:05:54.829
A mind that's set doesn't drift endlessly.
00:05:55.389 --> 00:05:57.069
A divided mind does.
00:05:57.389 --> 00:06:01.470
And when your mind keeps drifting, your life begins to stall.
00:06:02.269 --> 00:06:04.990
Getting unstuck often starts right there.
00:06:05.629 --> 00:06:09.790
By deciding where your attention is going to live.
00:06:11.490 --> 00:06:15.730
Here's an uncomfortable truth most of us have experienced.
00:06:16.610 --> 00:06:21.410
Faith stays in your head eventually turns into frustration.
00:06:22.050 --> 00:06:30.129
When you find yourself going over and over and over the same thoughts and actually not moving, you start to feel a little frustrated.
00:06:30.129 --> 00:06:38.290
Once you have that awareness that things aren't moving, frustration sets in and you start to feel a little uneasy in your spirit.
00:06:38.939 --> 00:06:46.060
Because you know too much to stay comfortable, but you do too little to change.
00:06:47.180 --> 00:06:50.060
That tension wears on you over time.
00:06:50.779 --> 00:06:54.459
That's why Jesus says faith without works is dead.
00:06:55.019 --> 00:07:01.579
Not because action earns God's approval, but because action is how faith stays alive.
00:07:02.540 --> 00:07:05.339
Movement keeps faith from going stale.
00:07:07.180 --> 00:07:12.139
Getting unstuck doesn't usually require a massive life overhaul.
00:07:12.139 --> 00:07:15.019
It doesn't look like a complete 180 in your life.
00:07:15.500 --> 00:07:18.699
It usually starts with just getting up.
00:07:19.500 --> 00:07:20.779
Sometimes quite literally.
00:07:21.339 --> 00:07:25.019
It might look like turning off the TV and deciding to go for a walk.
00:07:25.660 --> 00:07:30.699
It could mean putting down your phone and doing the thing you've been talking about for weeks.
00:07:32.170 --> 00:07:38.889
Might be reaching out instead of withdrawing, or starting something before you actually feel the motivation to do it.
00:07:39.050 --> 00:07:45.370
Just making a conscious decision in your mind that it's time to act, that it's time to move forward.
00:07:46.170 --> 00:07:49.529
Because small movement changes something inside of you.
00:07:50.089 --> 00:07:56.970
God meets people who move not because movement impresses him, but because movement creates space.
00:07:58.180 --> 00:08:00.180
You don't need to feel ready.
00:08:00.259 --> 00:08:05.860
In fact, you won't always feel ready, but you need to be willing to take that step.
00:08:07.379 --> 00:08:11.620
Throughout scripture, God meets people while they're walking.
00:08:12.259 --> 00:08:13.540
Abraham walked.
00:08:14.420 --> 00:08:15.459
Israel walked.
00:08:15.459 --> 00:08:16.819
The disciples walked.
00:08:17.540 --> 00:08:20.060
Following God has always been active.
00:08:20.060 --> 00:08:24.100
It's always been about motion, and we talked about this last week.
00:08:24.639 --> 00:08:26.560
Clarity comes along the way.
00:08:27.759 --> 00:08:42.480
That's how unstuck works in real life, too, by making the decision to just move and not needing all the answers, but trusting that once you step out, God will meet you where you are and everything will fall into place.
00:08:51.450 --> 00:08:54.330
So again, here's my question for you today.
00:08:55.210 --> 00:08:57.450
What's really keeping you stuck?
00:08:58.250 --> 00:09:02.809
Are you wishing for change or are you willing to walk toward it?
00:09:03.370 --> 00:09:09.450
Because wishing keeps you comfortable, Walking is what actually changes your life.
00:09:10.409 --> 00:09:18.419
If you're bored, restless, or just dissatisfied right now, I want you to pause and ask yourself one simple question.
00:09:19.700 --> 00:09:24.899
What's one thing I could do today instead of just thinking about it?
00:09:25.379 --> 00:09:28.419
Not next week, not someday, but today?
00:09:29.620 --> 00:09:33.779
Get out of your head and get into your life.
00:09:34.179 --> 00:09:37.700
God is already there and he's ready to meet you in motion.
00:09:38.580 --> 00:09:49.629
So next time I want you to please keep asking, keep listening, and don't stay seated when God is inviting you to get unstuck.
00:09:59.710 --> 00:10:00.669
Before you go.
00:10:00.990 --> 00:10:05.230
If today's question stayed with you, I'd love to keep the conversation going.
00:10:05.789 --> 00:10:20.370
Each week I send a short email called this week's question a Quiet Invitation, and it's a simple reflection to help you stay grounded, to pay attention, to dive deeper into God's word, and to walk with God throughout your week.
00:10:20.690 --> 00:10:28.210
You can sign up at myquestion for you.com bringing you encouragement for your spirit and wisdom for your walk.
00:10:41.070 --> 00:10:41.309
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